Hope Changes Everything

Look On The Bright Side

Whether you are an actor, a writer or director, in the entertainment business, uncertainty and hopelessness is the elephant in the room. Hopelessness and despair are a daily battle for everyone of us. And for an "extra" or a "day-player"… this can be extremely tough.

There is nothing more difficult than to be treated as a “Less-Than” on a set. To be divided into groups (Extra’s and Featured) as soon as you hit the set can sometimes be demoralizing. I'm an actor and until I joined SAG and AFTRA because I got lucky enough to get a role that enabled me to join, I had to endure this treatment for years. But I loved just being on a film set…watching the actors and crew work to get the shot in the can.

Standing in the background afforded me the opportunity to watch and learn, and I loved every second of it. But when you are an actor/actress, you have to be able to look forward to the day that you can actually “speak lines” on the set. If that is not a possibility, then you have to ask yourself…”Is this what I want to do for the next 20 years?” It’s an important question. One that each of us must ask at some point in our careers. I include myself, because I am also an actor trying to make it here in L.A. and I still ask myself this question periodically.

There are so many opportunities here that your life can change tomorrow. Tomorrow! And I have seen it.

My next-door neighbor, who I have known for 15 years, is in his 50s and he just landed his first regular role on a TV show last month. And his advice is… don’t stop. Don’t give up hope. Keep going and it will work out.

But he is the exception, not the rule. But the one thing that I have noticed is that he was always hopeful about his future. He was always working at his craft. And this dedication constantly brought jobs, in both TV and Commercials. Now he has a family and a house to keep up…so this was always his reality check. These were the very things that gave him hope and drive to continue in the face of overwhelming odds.

Professor Fred Luthans, management professor specializing in Organizational Behavior has an approach that he calls (POB) Positive Organizational Behavior. The goal of POB, which can work very well with people working in the entertainment industry is to:

1. Shift the emphasis away from what is wrong with people to what is right with people.
2. Focus on one’s strengths, as opposed to beating yourself up due to perceived weaknesses or screw-ups.
3. Be interested and increase your resilience, as opposed to one's vulnerabilities.
4. Concern yourself with enhancing and growing one’s wellness, prosperity and the good life, as opposed to going into the dark side.

Luthans and his colleagues have identified four qualities as the critical component in Positive Organizational Behavior.

1. Self efficacy:  having confidence to take on and put in the necessary effort to succeed at challenging tasks
2. Optimism: making a positive attribution and expectation about succeeding now and in the future
3. Hope: persevering toward goals and, when necessary, redirecting paths to goals in order to succeed
4. Resilience: when beset by problems and adversity, sustaining and bouncing back and even beyond to attain success.

As actors and filmmakers, we can very easily accomplish the third point: Finding different ways to achieve your goals. With cameras being so cheap, hell…you can even make a film on your cell phone or iPad, you can literally side-step the entire Hollywood madness and create your own films. This is what I have started to do, and it has been an amazing experience so far.

Making the leap to POB can have a remarkable impact on how we do business as creatives. It pulls the intense focus away from under-performing, and it puts the attention instead on high performance… asking “How can we create more of this?”

Psychologists associate these four qualities with higher performance, commitment, and satisfaction. I think one of the most interesting and exciting things about these four qualities is that they are malleable and open to improvement when incorporated into one's life on a day-to-day basis.

How would this apply to actors? Well, I think that as actors, most of us were never taught these basic qualities. When, or even if, we went to college, we were more interested in stage combat, or vocal training, or how to delve into a character and make it real. Or just getting on stage and acting in front of an audience. But for me, the good news here is that if these qualities are “open to improvement” then we can learn these and get better at them with practice.  The same can be said for writers and directors.

Instead of drifting into alcohol or drugs or any other thing we use to mask our disappointment and pain of rejection or unemployment… I am going to surround myself with friends and family. Or I am going to make my own film. Or write my own script. Or join an acting or writing class to constantly hone my craft for when that day does come.

There is an important distinction to be made here: It is the division between hope and wishing. Those that are hopeful are actively trying to find the best path of action to take while delving into the daily obstacles. However, research has shown that many of those who have “hope” are in reality only wishfully thinking and passively going through the motions, as if they are in denial about their actual circumstances.

How Long Do I Stay Hopeful?

This is a very personal decision that every single one of us who aspire to be a working or successful creative must make some day. The only way to know if you’re on course is to perform a reality check every five years. Or any time period that you feel comfortable making or deciding on. For me personally, I have been getting cast in TV and film 3-4 times per year. Is this enough for me? Of Course Not!!! But I am not willing to decide to walk away quite yet. Because as I mentioned earlier - in this town, your life can change tomorrow! 

So you must make a choice on how long you are willing to try. And as an extra, this decision can be even more painful and excruciating. How can you know when to leave when you’ve never been given your shot??? BUT…with some useful tips or some good progress, you can see if you’re making any real progress. And by progress, I mean genuine evidence you’re moving forward. That evidence can be in the form of:

• You get representation from an established agent or manager
• As an actor you get callbacks on mainstream projects and start getting cast in acting jobs, commercials, theater roles, TV and film
• As a writer you start getting writing assignments or optioned (paid or for free)
• As a writer you receive positive feedback to pitches and placement in screenwriting contests
• As a director you win awards or get top placement in film festivals and competitions
• You receive rave reviews from known critics for your work

In other words, there has to be irrefutable proof that you have the skill and ability to achieve a long-term career. If none of those elements are present, you can try waiting another five years for the next reality check, but it would be a mistake to go further than that.

As for my next door neighbor, or a couple of well-known actors in their 50’s that got their big breaks late in life - Richard Jenkins and Michael Emerson, please understand those guys were working actors known to the casting community before they made it big. And Louie C.K. from the show “LOUIE” was a respected comic who kept building on his accomplishments. If any of them did a reality check after five years, I’m sure they would’ve seen the kind of progress I’m talking about.

Charles Grodin, a wonderful actor best known to me for his fabulous performance in “Midnight Run” said it best: “Reach for it, but don’t fall off the edge of the world. I wish you could all get what you want, but there’s nothing as valuable as a useful happy life, and rumor has it there are some people who have achieved that who aren’t actors."

“Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul and sings the tune without the words and never stops at all.”

– Emily Dickinson (1830 - 1886)